Frequently Asked Questions

Joining and getting started

Below are the questions we hear most often, grouped by topic. If yours is not here, our About Us and Features pages explain more about how the site works.

Safety

How do I stay safe when meeting someone?

Chat on the site first, then meet somewhere public such as a cafe or a munch. Travel there and back yourself, tell a friend where you are going and agree a time to check in. Keep the first meeting to conversation only.

What should I agree before any play?

Limits, a safeword or signal, any health matters, and what aftercare looks like. Our consent and safewords guide walks you through it.

What are the red flags?

Pressure to skip steps, refusing to meet in public, asking for money, mocking safewords or limits, and pushing for personal details early. Block and report anyone who behaves like this.

Can I block or report someone?

Yes. If someone makes you uncomfortable, block them and report the profile so it can be reviewed.

Discretion and privacy

Do I have to show my face?

No. Many members start without a face photo and share more privately once they trust someone. Be honest that you are doing this so others know what to expect.

Can I use a scene name?

Yes. Using a nickname instead of your real name is common and sensible, both online and at munches.

Will anyone know I am a member?

Your membership is your business. Avoid reusing photos that appear on your public social media, and do not share details that identify your workplace.

How should I share personal details?

Slowly. Keep chat on the site until you have met in person and feel comfortable, and never send money to anyone you meet online.

Cost

How much does membership cost?

You can create a profile and look around before deciding anything. Paid membership options and their current prices are shown clearly when you choose to upgrade, so you always see the cost before you pay.

Does membership renew automatically?

Check the details shown at checkout, which set out the length of each plan and whether it renews.

Is there anything I have to pay for to stay safe?

No. Our guides on consent, safety and meeting people are open to everyone.

Couples

Can couples join?

Yes. Couples are welcome, whether you are exploring kink together for the first time or looking to meet other couples or singles.

How should a couple write a profile?

Say who you both are, what you are looking for and what you are not. Make it clear that you have both agreed to it, and say how you like to get to know people.

We are new to kink as a couple. Where should we start?

Read what BDSM is together, try our roleplay ideas for couples, and consider going to a munch to meet people without any pressure.

Getting started

Who is the site for?

UK singles and couples of every orientation who are into fetish, BDSM and kink, or curious about it.

Where are members based?

Across England, Scotland, Wales and Northern Ireland. Our cities pages cover local scenes from Belfast to Brighton.

How do I join?

Signup Here and build a profile around your interests and limits. Returning members can Sign in.